Thank you so much for your interest in our family’s adoption journey.
Where It Started
It is one that started before we were even married, with a tiny but strong seed planted in our hearts about the hope that adoption can bring to women facing an unwanted pregnancy. Over the course of marriage and three babies all two years apart, adoption was always still a part of our conversations, but the timing never lined up quite right between us.
Then, in January 2013, we felt a clear nudge from the Lord that the time was “NOW”. I shared in March of that year the post I waited seven years to write. After much prayer, we then moved forward with international adoption from The Democratic Republic of the Congo. Then, at the very end of October 2013, we received the call: a referral for a precious little girl, just under two years old.
Where We’ve Been
What followed were two of the craziest, hardest, most painful, most trying years of our nearly ten years of marriage. It included two trips to the Congo, an endless number of troubling phone calls, and I don’t know how many sleepless nights as we realized the critical situation our girl was in, under the control of a very corrupt orphanage director. That chapter of our adoption journey ended in January 2015 when our legally adopted Congolese daughter was returned to her birth mother after a series of very, very crazy events. Despite our pain and grief, we truly rejoice for her and pray that she is in the best possible place, right where she belongs. We knew in the midst of that experience that adoption was not about us, it is about the child. The Lord confirmed to our hearts that He would be glorified in our story if we would let him.
If you’d like, you can read the full story via our adoption posts here.
You can also check out our adoption timeline.
What Happened Next
After two years of an intense international adoption, we questioned if we should walk away from adoption. Yet, the Lord knit our hearts together as a couple in a miraculous, beautiful way during our time of grief. He confirmed that most definitely, we are still called to adopt and that someone is definitely still missing from our family.
After prayer and more prayer, we officially moved forward in faith with domestic infant adoption in early 2015. It’s been a long road and we trust the One leading us.
In early February, we contracted with our consulting agency. After months of presenting to expectant moms, we matched with a precious expectant mother in June 2015. Oh, how we did not see what was to come next. That little baby was born on July 9th, but that sweet child was not meant to be ours. You can read more about what happened with that situation here.
As of Spring 2016, Adrian and I made the painful decision to step away from presenting to birth moms over and over and over again. There was so much pain and hurt still. During the past year, I stepped away from the internet and sought the Lord for some deep healing. We worked through bitterness together and fought to understand our identity as His children first, regardless of how our family looked. As of this writing (June 2017), we are at a truly beautiful place of knowing God’s plans are good and He is faithful. He has brought us through the worst case scenarios and knit us together as a family and as His children. And so we stand today with open hands and hearts, open to let the Lord do what He will in our family.
Thank you for walking this journey with our family. You bless us immensely and God is good to us through this sweet community!