I’m guessing if you’re reading here today, you’re up to date on what the past two years have looked like on this hard road to adoption. If not, you can read a summary of our story here.
It’s amazing to me what a different place we are at today then the day we started. Our life group this semester is studying the book of Acts. Last night, we talked about this tension that when the early church was experiencing the most severe persecution, they were also multiplying most rapidly. They knew the deepest community. They lived selflessly and gave generously to all in need. Their faith was strongest. The Lord did mighty miracles among them and they believed.
Adrian asked the group to share about a season of struggle that they now look back on and are thankful they went through. Most of us can’t say we are grateful for hardship in the thick of the trial. But later, when we look back over dark chapters in our lives, we can (hopefully) see how the Lord brought us through. We can attest with confidence that He is good and brings beauty from the ashes.
And that’s the only way I can look back on the hard things of the past two years:
With a strange gratitude for what the Lord did in and through us.
With a confidence that I know Jesus better through the suffering.
With expectant hope for what lies ahead.
Today, we’re excited to share with you all what’s next along this road. It could not be more different than how we thought this story would read, but it’s one God is writing. We’re giving Him the pen and leaving the pages of our lives open before Him.
During our grief, the Lord knit our hearts together as a couple and confirmed that we are still called to adopt; that someone is definitely still missing from our family.
After prayer and more prayer, we are officially moving forward in faith with domestic infant adoption. We are hesitant and hopeful; we are grateful and trusting.
To answer a few common questions, we have a one year contract with an adoption consultant agency. Their average time before a match is 4-9 months, so really we could have a baby any time this year! Our birth mom could be from anywhere in the US and we will travel to wherever she’s at when it’s time for labor/delivery.
As far as cost, it varies greatly based on what agency we are ultimately matched with and a number of factors. However, we are preparing for the upper end of that range just so we are ready (you can definitely pray along with us that our situation will be on the lower end, though! :)). We are blessed to have some funds left from our international adoption fundraisers, but we are still aiming to raise about $25,000. It is a large amount of money to raise in a short period of time. We will be applying for a number of grants in addition to hosting some fundraisers.
The money part is never something I enjoy talking about. It’s honestly the main thing that kept us from moving forward. We considered all the options and prayed God would clearly lead. And at the end of the day, this is where we landed. As much as I hate the money side of this, it is also one of the biggest faith pieces, because we truly cannot do this on our own. This will be all God and we’re fully aware of that!
If you’d like to contribute, you can:
- Donate via PayPal to [email protected] – send as a gift so no fees are taken out
- Shop MERCY iNK
- Shop our Noonday fundraiser through February 28th (more details tomorrow, but if you’d like to purchase, please use this link and enter “MILLS ADOPTION” in trunk show name. 20% of sales will benefit our adoption).
Over the next few weeks, I hope to share some more information on domestic adoption and where our hearts are in all this. For now, here’s our little update.
We don’t know the outcome, but we know the Author of our story and we trust Him.
Thank you for journeying with us. We are blessed by this community in more ways than we can count.
May God be glorified,
Lauren & Adrian