by Courtney Laib of Story Hope.
It’s only day four of the 31 Days series and I’m already struggling to put together thoughts on identity. It’s not that I don’t have thoughts, it’s just that sometimes it’s hard to get them from my head to the keys of my computer. Will you pray for Lauren and I, that God will work in our own hearts as we take a deeper look into where we place OUR identities?
So back in February I did something I’ve never done before. I cut off all my hair. Well, most of it. After searching Pinterest for the perfect pixie cut, I made an appointment at a salon to chop my hair. Before I made the big cut, my hair was as long as it had ever been. Ever. And then it was short. Super short. And can I be honest with you? It really messed with my identity as a woman. (Here’s the before and after).
Don’t get me wrong, I really love my short hair (most days) and how easy and fun it is, but I don’t feel as feminine with short hair. And femininity has always been a struggle for me. I was a major tomboy growing up and was way more into sports than dolls and make-up. But here’s the problem… I’m choosing to find my identity in my hair rather than in my Jesus. And I can imagine how sad that makes Him.
“Do not look on his appearance of on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7 ESV
Have you been finding YOUR identity as a woman based on how long or beautiful your hair is? Or how put together your outfits are? Or how skinny you are? Or how much make-up you wear? Or how feminine you act?
I’m guilty of answering yes to all of these questions but today I’m choosing to rest in the truth that my Identity is in Christ and Him alone. And thank goodness He cares only about what’s in my heart and not how much hair is on my head.
Courtney is a mom, wife, friend, and Instagram addict. She lives in the Chicago area with her Pastor husband and three year old son. She is a fan of summer time, chai tea lattes, running, making new friends, traveling, and loving the ‘least of these’. She blogs at storyhope.com and you can usually find her talking about life, faith, and finding hope in brokenness.
This 31 Days Series will be a tag-team effort with Courtney Laib of Story Hope. We’re digging deep to look at where we find our identities, the areas of identity in which we struggle, and the truth of who we truly are. It will be raw and messy, and we pray that we will each come away with a clearer sense of who we’ve been made to be.