31 Days of Identity: Day 15
I spent this past weekend on a women’s retreat with a group of ladies from our church. I know that many women shy away from gatherings with other women, and I really do understand. But can I just encourage you for a moment to consider taking a leap outside your comfort zone, to enter into community with other women around you? I have a lot of thoughts on this, but they’re all a bit of a rabbit trail to today’s point. Just know that I think you should connect with other women, and that I believe you will be blessed in doing so.
On to Day 15 of Identity. On Friday morning of the retreat, my incredibly talented friend Jennifer ran a session on personality types. She is trained in administering and assessing the Myers-Briggs, an assessment designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions. It is likely you have taken the test at some point in your life.
Jennifer worked through each dichotomy of letters, which you’re probably familiar with:
If you’re not familiar with the test, you can read more about it and take a free version of the Myers Briggs assessment online. Several other personality assessments exist, and I highly recommend taking one or a few of them. Try to answer from your gut, respond quickly, and be real.
One of the beautiful parts of Jennifer’s session was her encouragement for each of us as women to not only understand that we were indeed given a personality by God right from birth, but also that the people in life we find challenging were created with different personalities, as well. And we all need each different personality type in our lives, as each one of us offers something valuable in the Kingdom and each of us were created with our unique personality for for a purpose.
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10
Jennifer challenged us that as women, we tend to see our differences as a point of contention or comparison. The differences can get us real irritated at someone, or they can get us jealous, wishing we were like someone else.
There is danger, friends, in wanting to be someone we were never meant to be. And there is danger in wishing others were meant to be someone other than their true selves.
The beauty, the freedom, comes in knowing that indeed we are created in His image. Only you can be wonderfully, fearfully, fully you. And while He is ever working us out to completion (Philippians 1:6), ever growing and stretching and refining us, our true personality is made uniquely for Him and His purposes.
My prayer for you, for us, as you (and we) dig deep into this search for identity, is that you might both understand yourself and your God given personality, and that you would embrace it. Rejoice in it. Find freedom in knowing He made you to be YOU. And walk forth in that freedom, sweet friends. I’m seeking it with you.