My time at last week’s Summit9 conference has my head and heart full. There is so much information to process, so much to share. Yet, today, I have a feeling I’m not supposed to share information and thoughts on orphan justice, global orphan care, creating church-based orphan ministry, or the ethics of international adoption just yet.
I came away feeling burdened for the waiting moms I’d met with, desperate and nearly without hope. Over the past few days, I’ve sensed that same ache for encouragement my friends at the conference expressed they needed so desperately. So today I offer a little hope to those sweet ones in the midst of this weary, sometimes discouraging wait.
The wait is not worthless.
In fact, I am sure that God works in the wait. To refine. To allow us time to lean in and lean on Him. I’ve shared this quote several times before, and I think it’s worth sharing once again as we remind our tender hearts that He has not forgotten us:
As you wait, tell yourself again and again that you have not been singled out. Remind yourself that you are part of a vast company of people who are being called to wait. Reflect on the biblical story. Abraham waited many years for his promised son. Israel waited 420 years for deliverance from Egypt, then another 40 years before they could enter the land God had promised them. God’s people waited generation after generation for the Messiah, and the church now waits for his return. The whole world groans as it waits for the final renewal of all things that God has promised. In ministry, it is vital to understand that waiting is not an interruption of God’s plan. It is his plan. And you can know this as well: the Lord who has called you to wait is with you in your wait. He hasn’t gone off to do something else, like the doctor you’re waiting to see. No, God is near, and he provides for you all that you need to be able to wait. (Paul Tripp)
You are not alone.
As we trust He has not abandoned us in the waiting, we cling to the truth that we are not alone. God himself is with us in our wait. And still, there is an earthly ache of loneliness. Friend, it is lonely. Even when there are people around us who have been down the adoption road or understand on some level, no one is walking our walk, no one waiting our wait. But we have to know we weren’t meant to walk it alone. We must let people in, share our stories, and be vulnerable. Let us not be frustrated that no one understands what we’re going through (frustrating as it may be!); instead, let’s gently open the door to our hearts. So just as we draw near to the Lord in the wait, we lean in on the body, on our sisters, in the wait. We trust and claim and declare that we are not alone.
He is still God.
Along the road of adoption, a thousand things can go wrong. A thousand questions can stir in our hearts and minds. A thousand reasons lead us to doubt and question. But we rest in this truth: Jesus is good and He is God and that will never change. Halleluiah! Our job is not to figure out every detail, but simply to trust Him. We know when we can’t tell right from left or up from down, He knows. He is unfailing, unchanging, unshaken. Sovereign. Holy. Good. And? Nothing, nothing, nothing can separate us from that good news:
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39)
He fulfills His promises.
Perhaps not in our timing. Perhaps not in our preferred method of doing business. Perhaps, painfully, not even this side of heaven. But God is always faithful to His word. ALWAYS. We can trust in that.
And so after waiting patiently, Abraham received what was promised. Hebrews 6:15
If you are a mama waiting to adopt your little one, what has sustained you during the painful wait?
What is it that brings you the most encouragement during the wait? Are you waiting in a different way, not related to adoption? Share your heart with us in the comments.
by grace alone,
photo source: Jim Nix / Nomadic Pursuits
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